Yesterday, a sister missionary told me the story of a young woman who grew up in her ward. She was disconnected from the other girls. She dressed “goth” — everything was black, including lipstick. She didn’t want to be with the other young women because she didn’t feel like she fit in.
Then one day, the parents of the sister missionary said to the girl who dressed goth (with the permission of the girl’s parents), “We want to take you shopping. We will pay for your clothes. Do you want to go?” The girl said yes and they went shopping.
Well, the girl picked out a whole new wardrobe, a whole new look. Lots of bright colors. It was fun!
Then something happened. The girl started looking at herself differently. She started feeling differently about herself. She started to attend Young Women. She found a new place in the world—because of the way she chose to dress and because of how that made her feel about herself.
She remained active. Later, she went on a mission. And when she came home, she married in the temple.
Those missionary’s parents. They were guardian angels.
What is it about the clothes we wear and what they say about us? Our clothes—and the lack of them—are often a reflection of what is going on inside. They can also influence what is going on inside, and what goes on outside. It all starts on the inside, though.
I used to interview missionaries when they got home from their missions. Among other things, I’d say to them, “Don’t go shaggy.” Why? Because shaggy is as shaggy does. Shaggy looks invite shaggy behavior.
It’s not about the clothes, really. It’s about how you choose to feel about yourself and the effect it has on you.