Appreciating Our Wives By Lightening Their Labors

Here is another incident from the life of the Prophet Joseph Smith from a personal encounter between the Prophet and Jesse W. Crosby.

“One day when the Prophet carried to Bro. Crosby’s house a sack of flour he had borrowed, the wife remarked that he had returned more than he had received. He answered that it should be so. That anything borrowed should be returned always with interest to the lender. ‘Thus,’ said he, ‘The borrower, if he be honest is a slave to the lender.’

“Bro. Crosby felt it to be an opportune time to give to the man he loved so well [Joseph] some corrective advice, which he had desired for a long time to do.

“He reminded him, of every phase of his greatness and called to his mind the multitude of tasks he performed that were too menial for such as he. And to fetch and carry flour, he told him, was too great a humiliation. ‘Too terrible
a humiliation,’ [B]rother C[rosby] repeated, ‘for you who are the head, and you should not do it.’

“The Prophet listened quietly to all he had to say then made answer in these words: ‘If there be humiliation in a man’s house who but the head of that house should or could bear that humiliation?’

“Sister Crosby was a very hardworking woman, taking much more responsibility in her home than most women take. [Brother Crosby] thinking to give the Prophet some light on home management said to him, ‘Brother Joseph, my wife does much more hard work than does your wife.’

“Brother Joseph replied by telling him that if a man cannot learn in this life to appreciate a wife and do his duty by her in properly taking care of her, he need not expect to be given one in the hereafter.

“Brother Crosby said in telling this incident ‘His words shut my mouth as tight as a clam. I took them as a terrible reproof.’ After that he tried to do better by the good wife he had, and tried to lighten her labors.”

From the “LaFayette C. Lee Notebook” held in the LDS Church Archives, Salt Lake City, Utah, as quoted in Remembering Joseph by Mark L. McConkie.

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